As the end of the year fast approaches, it is inevitable that we start to reflect on what we have achieved over the past 12 months and look towards the next arbitrary chunk of time.
I have already started thinking about the direction I want to take Dora Does in in 2019 and am looking at how I will get my message out there, how I will get seen amidst the internet of noise. Naturally my thoughts turned to social media and whether I am doing everything I can to find my people.
I love Instagram as I have met so many amazing creators there (and as a result in real life too) and enjoy the sense of community. But getting seen is becoming harder and harder as the battle to understand the algorithm rages on.
I had a look at my own grid and though I am proud of my crochet efforts this year, I sighed a little wishing I could be consistent enough to have a beautifully curated feed with consistent filters and themes and dramatic classy perfectly framed images (with the thousands of engaged followers which go with it!).
You know what I mean. Those accounts where you can identify whose it is just from the picture. I just think that the variation in my work. My photography *skills* and what I want to share make it difficult to achieve that kind of look.
Then I suddenly realised something. Those perfect consistent feeds in no way represent real life. Real life doesn’t exist in an artisan, side lit, flat lay setting. Even if it did, how boring would life be if we only saw the world through one single filter?
I am in no way criticising these beautiful accounts. I know how much work it takes to achieve something like this and I love seeing how people use light and colour in their photography. But if there is one thing I want my own social presence to be, it’s real, and country chateaux or Scandi Chic may be speckled around my home but they are not my reality! My reality is a big mash up of many things.
Life is enriched by variety. It is a patchwork of experiences and places and characters and ups and downs.
For me, it is too hard to cut out this variety. There is stuff I want to share which may not fit in with my ‘last nine’ but I should remember there is a reason I chose to share it anyway. Just because something isn’t typical that doesn’t mean it should be hidden (even if it messes with my visual need for balance and symmetry!!)
I’m using social media as a metaphor now.
Why should we only be one thing?
I look at my wardrobe and the range of outfits reminds of how many things I am. If we all cared less about matchy matchy and perfection, and went with the flow a little more, think how liberated we would feel!
I always wanted to be someone who is true, warts and all (because seeing other people’s wards makes you feel a lot better about your own!).
Sometimes that is hard because the truth isn’t always pretty. But I think it’s worth it.
So maybe that is my message. That it’s okay to chop and change. If your values remain steadfast It doesn’t matter if your appearance changes and you experiment with everything else. In fact I actively encourage trying something different.
So long live the hotch potch of colour and miss matching posts and imperfect decisions. Here’s to sharing the moment even if it doesn’t quite fit with your plans.
Plans mean nothing when life interferes anyway. Shit happens and there is no way to stop that.
So lets control the controlables and roll with the rest. We will find a way to join all those squares together to make something that resembles a blanket!