I’m having a bit of a wobble this week.
Have you ever had those weeks where you wonder what you’re doing? Are you on the right path? Should you be doing something else? Should you be making more money? Should you be spending more time at home and less at work? Is all that stress worth it? Is there a better way you can’t see?
I have asked myself all of those questions at one time or another and this past few days, a lot of them have started to creep back in and make me question my position and where I want to go next.
Is it fear of the unknown driving this? I expect so, but I am feeling a little paralysed by indecision at the moment. I have a hundred idea’s about where I want to take my little business but I keep circling back to “but will it pay the mortgage?”. And I don’t know the answer.
I have never been driven my money. Having flashy things which cost 100 times more because they have someone’s name on just always seemed nuts to me. Don’t get me wrong, I will happily pay for quality but I’ve never been a brand obsessive. I am also starting to sound like my mother…
Historially I was driven by a need for calm and stability. Smooth sailing was my goal and I didn’t really care what direction I was headed in.
This served me well for many years but suddenly it dawned on me that steering the boat was not going to make it capsize. I realised I was the capitain, not just a passenger. (Are you still with me on the boat analogy?)
So I set sail on this freelance creative journey. I sailed out into the middle of the ocean and, so far, it’s been quite an adventure. But now I feel like I’m in the middle of the deep blue sea and I can’t see land in any direction so I’m just not sure where to head next.
And today that is making me wobble.
Often when I’m stuck with something, I think about what advice I would give to a friend in the same situation. This can be a great exercise at being nice to yourself because we are usually way nicer to our friends than our own minds!
So here is my advice to me.
That is to say, change nothing. Keep doing what you’re doing.
You know that if you keep exploring and your mind is open, the right path will present itself. In the mean time, maybe just drop anchor and dive underwater to look at where you are now from a new perspective.
Keep working hard and being true to yourself and one way or another things will become clear. Even if there are stormy waters along the way!
Trust the Universe – it’s not as woo woo as it sounds.
Sometimes when things are feeling uncertain we get the urge to change everything. To shake it up and start over. I’m all for keeping things fresh but also think we can be too quick to throw the baby out with the bath water (there’s my mother again with that expression!).
I am reminded of a florist friend who, after one particularly stressful wedding involving the bride from hell, wanted to give up on her business entirely. But she didn’t. She waited and kept on going. She realised one bridezilla was not going to choose her life path and found some lessons in the experience instead.
So from Dora, to Dora, and anyone else who needs to hear this. When you’re feeling like you don’t know where to go next, just do nothing. Hold off the rash decisions, stay on your path. If you really need to take some action then go and make some lists of all your options and their pro’s and con’s, to get all the buzzy confusion out of your brain! There is nothing like a list for getting clarity and perspective.
But, more to the point, there is nothing like doing nothing to work out your something!
Big Nothingy Love