What is it you want?
Are you sure that’s it?
Or is that what you wanted 5 years ago?
Do you still want it?
Or are you on autopilot?
Sometimes the answers to that first questions changes without us realising. You wanna keep an eye on those sneaky shifts. They’re the ones which get troublesome.
Where are you at?
Recently, I was approached with an opportunity which would send me back in the direction of my “old” life. I spent a few days um-ing and ah-ing and feeling genuinely ambivalent about it. Ultimately the opportunity would have taken too much time away from Dora Does which made the decision easy, but it also suddenly made me realise how much I love doing what I do and how I don’t want that to lose that.
It’s like I regained this laser focus and realised I have this amazing opportunity to give my little business everything I’ve got. The remainder of the week I spent planning and generally getting shit done and feeling ultra motivated. This feeling has stayed with me because I remembered why I was doing what I’m doing, and that is like a motivational nuclear power source!
Where are you at right now?
Are you happy there?
What is your ‘why’?
I listen to a lot of business podcasts and am a member of some great entrepreneurial groups. A theme which comes up again and again is understanding your purpose, your ‘why’. That ‘why’ doesn’t have to be something grandiose like saving the world or curing cancer, it can be providing for your family or simply doing what you love. It is the thing that makes you get up in the morning.
If you have a ‘why’ which you believe in, a passion or a mission or whatever you want to call it, then you will have the umph to go above and beyond and get over those obstacles which may stop the less motivated in their tracks.
This last year, I have done things I always thought I would be too scared to do. I did them because my enthusiasm was greater than my fear. If I wasn’t that bothered I would have found an excuse. It’s incredibly powerful.
If you want something enough you will find a way, if you don’t you’ll find an excuse
Sometimes it is only when we face losing something that we appreciate its value and our why reveals itself. My recent dilemma was a little like that for me and it led me to refocus my energies, because I realised that giving all this up is just not an option!
Focusing on your ‘why’
Have you ever consciously thought about this before or have you just gone with the flow? I’m all for taking what comes but if it’s not letting you enjoy your life or you realise that you are sleepwalking (as I was for many many years) then perhaps it’s time for a different tack.
If you’re feeling a bit meh or demotivated, take some time out to remember why you’re doing what you’re doing. So often the day-to-day grind means you forget all the important stuff and you just need to clear away the weeds to smell the roses.
But sometimes there are those troublesome ground shifts I mentioned earlier. Your priorities change without you noticing and leave you feeling uncertain, unfulfilled and demotivated. So if you find that your ‘why’ doesn’t match what you’re actually doing, if you can’t find that fire, then perhaps it’s time for a rethink. It might need you to face some difficult truths, but will be worth it in the long term.
What if your gut is telling you your current path it’s not quite right but you don’t know what your alternatives are?
That’s okay. Asking the question alone is the first step. How exciting to explore all those other possibilities! Start with making a list of all the things that excite and inspire you, all the things you would do if you knew you wouldn’t fail, and work from there. Life is one big experiment and you probably won’t get it right first time but it’s an iterative process so just take your time and keep going!
Regardless of what you find, thinking about your motivations will help you let go of the stuff you know isn’t important and focus on what is (or finding out what is!). Whether it’s on an old goal or a new one, having that purpose strengthens your resilience in the face of challenges, and there will be challenges, but there will also be fulfilment and a life well lived.
My own burst in productivity has resulted in some super exciting new projects and fun things to come and I cannot wait to share it all with you over the next few months.
Thanks for sticking with me!